GitLab cross-site replication Phase 1a: Postgres network plumbing

Per the approved plan (jiggly-snacking-iverson.md, 'GitLab True
Cross-Site Replication' section) - replacing the git-mirror CronJob
with real CNPG streaming replication for pg-gitlab and pg-praefect,
reusing the exact pattern already proven for pg-authentik.

This commit is network plumbing only, no DB replication yet:
- Repoint both CNPG clusters' barmanObjectStore backup target from
  in-cluster gitlab-minio-svc to VPS MinIO (also becomes the initial
  seed source for the VPS's replicas in Phase 1c).
- New ha-gitlab-postgres/ha-praefect-postgres NodePort Services
  (bypass CNPG's own -rw Services) on both home and VPS.
- New PeerAuthentication with portLevelMtls PERMISSIVE on the replication
  ports - ambient mesh STRICT default would otherwise reset the
  VPS/witness's connection before the Postgres TLS handshake starts.
- Extended allow-gitlab-access AuthorizationPolicy with a port-scoped
  rule for the same traffic (no source.namespaces rule can match
  external, non-mesh peers).
- CoreDNS rewrites for pg-gitlab.ha.huskypup.net / pg-praefect.ha.huskypup.net
  so home's own pods reach the floating hostname locally instead of
  round-tripping through the WAN forward (no NAT hairpin support).

Still needed before Phase 1b/1c: UniFi WAN port-forwards for external
ports 61442/61443 -> talos-cp-01:32442/32443, source-restricted to the
VPS + witness public IPs (manual, same as the existing 61432 rule).

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

infrastructure/vps-standby/gitlab/manifests/ha-postgres-nodeport.yaml

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+---
+# Exposes the VPS's pg-gitlab/pg-praefect primaries (replicas today) back
+# to home over the Netbird mesh, for GitLab cross-site replication (see
+# /home/scooby/.claude/plans/jiggly-snacking-iverson.md) - needed for
+# failback (home rejoining as a replica once it's back). Same pattern as
+# infrastructure/vps-standby/authentik/manifests/ha-postgres-nodeport.yaml.
+#
+# No UniFi port-forward or Kyverno PolicyException needed here - the
+# VPS's k3s has no NodePort restriction, and home reaching OUT to the VPS
+# already works today via the netbird-egress DaemonSet's route (confirmed
+# live all session for MinIO/CrowdSec/pg-authentik) - it's only the
+# reverse direction (external peers reaching INTO home) that needs the
+# UniFi workaround (see apps/gitlab/manifests/ha-postgres-nodeport.yaml).
+#
+# Different nodePort numbers than home's side (32442/32443) - not
+# required since these are different machines, but matches the
+# authentik precedent's convention of keeping each site's numbers
+# distinct to avoid confusion.
+apiVersion: v1
+kind: Service
+metadata:
+  name: ha-gitlab-postgres
+  namespace: gitlab
+spec:
+  type: NodePort
+  selector:
+    cnpg.io/cluster: pg-gitlab
+    cnpg.io/instanceRole: primary
+  ports:
+    - port: 5432
+      targetPort: 5432
+      nodePort: 32444
+---
+apiVersion: v1
+kind: Service
+metadata:
+  name: ha-praefect-postgres
+  namespace: gitlab
+spec:
+  type: NodePort
+  selector:
+    cnpg.io/cluster: pg-praefect
+    cnpg.io/instanceRole: primary
+  ports:
+    - port: 5432
+      targetPort: 5432
+      nodePort: 32445