Fix ArgoCD ServerSideDiff permanent OutOfSync diffs

Add explicit CRD/API defaults to manifests that were causing ArgoCD's
SSA dry-run to produce results different from live state:

- HTTPRoutes: add group, kind, weight defaults to parentRefs/backendRefs
- Kyverno ClusterPolicies: add skipBackgroundRequests, allowExistingViolations
- Tetragon TracingPolicies: add return, maxData, resolve, returnCopy defaults
- Gateway certificateRefs: add group="" default
- Guacamole Gateway: add group="" to certificateRefs

Add ignoreDifferences for resources that legitimately differ:
- Cilium cert Secrets (auto-generated, data always differs)
- Istio ValidatingWebhookConfiguration failurePolicy (istiod mutates)
- Crowdsec LAPI Secrets (randomly generated)
- ServiceMonitor/PodMonitor relabeling action defaults
- StatefulSet volumeClaimTemplates apiVersion/kind defaults

Persist argocd-cm ignoreDifferences config in ArgoCD Helm values.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>

infrastructure/kyverno/policies/disallow-automount-sa-token.yaml

@@ -16,6 +16,7 @@ spec:
   background: true
   rules:
     - name: validate-automount
+      skipBackgroundRequests: true
       match:
         any:
           - resources:
@@ -60,6 +61,7 @@ spec:
                 - n8n
                 - nessus
       validate:
+        allowExistingViolations: true
         message: >-
           Pods should set automountServiceAccountToken to false unless API
           access is required (STIG V-242382).