Wire CNPG streaming replication + distributed topology for pg-authentik pilot

Adds connectionParameters (real streaming, not just barmanObjectStore
WAL-archive polling) to both sides' existing externalClusters entry, plus
replica.self/primary fields declaring the distributed topology (both
currently agree home is primary). Auth reuses CNPG's own auto-generated
streaming_replica client certs, cross-copied between clusters manually
(kubectl, not git - same pattern as every other cross-cluster secret
tonight) since they're the exact credential each side's pg_hba.conf
already trusts.

Also adds the VPS-side NodePort exposing its own pg-authentik primary
back to home (home->VPS already works via the existing netbird-egress
route, no UniFi port-forward needed for that direction - only the
reverse, VPS/witness reaching into home, needed the WAN workaround).

infrastructure/vps-standby/authentik/manifests/cnpg-cluster.yaml

@@ -70,6 +70,26 @@ spec:
     recovery:
       source: home-backup
 
+  # Multi-site active failover pilot (see
+  # /home/scooby/.claude/plans/jiggly-snacking-iverson.md) - the
+  # bootstrap.recovery above (barmanObjectStore) stays exactly as-is for
+  # the initial seed; connectionParameters below adds real streaming
+  # replication for ongoing sync, replacing the old WAL-archive-polling
+  # behavior (the source of the crash-looping/probe-tuning fights from
+  # earlier tonight - streaming doesn't need to restart postgres to check
+  # for new WAL).
+  #
+  # Auth: reuses CNPG's own generated streaming_replica client cert
+  # (CN=streaming_replica, issued by home's own pg-authentik CA) - copied
+  # here manually as pg-authentik-home-{ca,replication} (kubectl, not
+  # git). Same credential CNPG's own pg_hba.conf already trusts, nothing
+  # new to provision.
+  #
+  # Reachable via home.kube.huskypup.net:61432 - a UniFi WAN port-forward
+  # to talos-cp-01's real LAN IP (172.28.101.41), source-IP-restricted to
+  # just the VPS and witness public IPs. NOT the Netbird mesh directly -
+  # UniFi has no route to that CIDR, confirmed live (see
+  # infrastructure/ha-failover/manifests/etcd.yaml for the full story).
   externalClusters:
     - name: home-backup
       barmanObjectStore:
@@ -91,9 +111,27 @@ spec:
           secretAccessKey:
             name: vps-minio-secret
             key: secretkey
+      connectionParameters:
+        host: home.kube.huskypup.net
+        port: "61432"
+        dbname: app
+        user: streaming_replica
+        sslmode: verify-ca
+      sslCert:
+        name: pg-authentik-home-replication
+        key: tls.crt
+      sslKey:
+        name: pg-authentik-home-replication
+        key: tls.key
+      sslRootCert:
+        name: pg-authentik-home-ca
+        key: ca.crt
 
+  # Distributed topology: both sides agree home is primary today.
   replica:
     enabled: true
+    self: vps
+    primary: home
     source: home-backup
 
   monitoring:

infrastructure/vps-standby/authentik/manifests/ha-postgres-nodeport.yaml

@@ -0,0 +1,27 @@
+---
+# Exposes the VPS's pg-authentik primary (currently a read-only replica -
+# see cnpg-cluster.yaml's replica.enabled) to home over the Netbird mesh,
+# for the multi-site active-failover pilot. Same selector as CNPG's own
+# generated pg-authentik-rw ClusterIP Service, just NodePort instead.
+#
+# Unlike home's side of this (infrastructure/authentik/manifests/
+# ha-postgres-nodeport.yaml), no UniFi port-forward or Kyverno
+# PolicyException needed here - the VPS's k3s has no NodePort
+# restriction, and home reaching OUT to the VPS already works today via
+# the netbird-egress DaemonSet's route (confirmed live all session, same
+# path used for MinIO/CrowdSec) - it's only the reverse direction
+# (external peers reaching INTO home) that needed the UniFi workaround.
+apiVersion: v1
+kind: Service
+metadata:
+  name: ha-authentik-postgres
+  namespace: authentik
+spec:
+  type: NodePort
+  selector:
+    cnpg.io/cluster: pg-authentik
+    cnpg.io/instanceRole: primary
+  ports:
+    - port: 5432
+      targetPort: 5432
+      nodePort: 32433